Sexual Health

Help and Information about your sexual health

The Signs Below The Belt That Something Is Not Quite Right

No one wants to get an infection down there. It’s uncomfortable, embarrassing, and can be pretty gross. However, getting infections isn’t uncommon, and it doesn’t mean you are dirty. If you are sexually active you should be aware of what’s happening in your genital region. Here are some signs that you may need to be seen by a doctor.


No one smells like roses below the belt, but you shouldn’t smell foul either. If you notice a strong odor, whether or not it is foul this could be a sign of something going on. If the odor is foul, it’s definitely an issue that needs to be checked out.


Men and women can experience discharge when an infection is present. In men, a discharge that doesn’t seem to go away can be a sign of several STDs, and are often the only sign. In women, a discharge that is thicker than normal, an unusual color, or has a cottage cheese appearance should be checked out. It could be something as simple to treat as a yeast infection, but it could also be something serious.

Sores Or Bumps

Getting an ingrown hair is not something to worry about. However, if you notice sores that don’t seem to have a reason, or bumps or lumps not associated with recent shaving, you should have it checked out. Herpes will appear as sores, and some forms of HPV will as well. Other STDs can create lumps and bumps in the early stages.

Being diagnosed with an STD isn’t the worst thing that could happen, Leaving it go untreated though can be very dangerous and will be much more embarrassing to explain later.

Anal Sex Health

Anal sex can be fun for both men and women. It’s important to know that extra caution should be used as anal sex can also be dangerous when it’s rushed. If you are wanting to experiment with anal, or just enjoy it, here is what you should know about keeping yourself healthy.

Condoms And Lubricants

Condoms should be a part of any healthy sex life, regardless of what kind of sex you choose to have. STDs can be transmitted through any form of sex. With anal sex, it’s much easier to transmit STDs. The tissue in the anal cavity is thinner, and is more prone to tearing. As this happens, you can transmit diseases through these cracks and tears without even feeling it. Using a condom will help prevent this. Lubricant is also necessary. The lubricant helps to prevent anal tearing and cracking. It will also help keep the condom from breaking or ripping during sex.

Extreme Anal

While many porn productions feature people in extreme anal sex acts, it’s never a good idea. That area of your body was not designed to take anything large, and you can cause serious damage if you push it too far. Some of the risks of extreme anal sex are muscle tearing, scar tissue, and even a prolapsed anus.

Go Slowly

If you decide you want to do something a little more extreme than regular penetration, like fisting, you should work very slowly and use lots of lubricant. If it hurts, stop. Pain during sex can be good, but when it comes to anal sex it’s a warning sign that something isn’t right.

Your Partner Is A Former Swinger, Get Checked Out

While swingers are safe about their sex lives, it’s still important to get checked out if you find out your partner is a former swinger. Swingers are exposed to more sexually than other parts of the population, and it’s not uncommon to find an untreated STD among people in this community. Here’s what you should know.

Detailed History

Before you jump in to thinking that because your partner used to swing that they must have an STD, take a few minutes to get some history on them. Maybe they only tried it once, or maybe they were very careful. They may have also been responsible enough to get tested for STD’s regularly. The bottom line is don’t panic about this.

Get A Test

When you go get your tests done, make sure the doctors are aware of your partners sexual history. If you’ve only had a few partners they may not take you as seriously and run the full spectrum of tests. It’s been said that you’re sleeping with everyone your partner has slept with, and this is why it’s important the doctor is aware of the history.

Have Your Partner Tested

Not only should you get tested for all of the known STDs, your partner should also get another test done. Testing is much more accurate now than it was a few decades ago, and many STDs can lie dormant for a long time before symptoms show up. Even if they kept up with their tests, it’s not going to hurt to have them tested again as well. If they know it’s important to you they will be willing to do this to prove to you they were careful.

What Is An STD?

We hear a lot about the dangers of sex and STDs. But many people assume that they are all life threatening conditions that only happen to those who are very promiscuous and unsafe. This isn’t true. Everyday run of the mill people end up with sexually transmitted diseases. Here’s what you should know about what they are.


By definition an STD is any kind of disease or infection that can be spread through sexual contact. You don’t have to have actual intercourse to end up with one either. STDs can be transmitted through kissing, oral sex, and anal sex. Another common misconception is that an STD must have symptoms to be spread. This also isn’t true. Many people go years with herpes before they have an outbreak, and they can spread it the whole time.

STDs Many Don’t Know About

While most people have heard of the big ones, like AIDS, HIV, herpes, gonorrhea, and chlamydia, there are many other STDs that can be just as dangerous.  Mononucleosis is considered an STD and can make you very ill for a long time if not treated. This will present itself as a flu, but won’t go away on it’s own quickly. Some forms of cervical cancer are also considered STDs. Your partners don’t even have to be sick, simply having a lot of sex is enough to create the inflamed cells.

Sexual Health

You don’t need to be abstinent to avoid STDs. Instead, be safe about sex. Use condoms and dental dams for all types of sex. Dental dams are good for oral sex with women, and you can find flavored dams and condoms to make oral sex more pleasurable. Be smart and get tested a few times a year, and stay aware of whats going on with your body. This is the best way to get treated if you were to end up with one.

How To Be Safe And Still Have Fun

Relationships aren’t what they used to be. With STD’s and other risks, having fun requires extra precautions. You can still have an active sex and dating life though if you take a few safety measures.

Meeting Up

When you meet people for the first time you should take some time to let someone whom you trust know who you are seeing and where you are going. This way in the worst case scenario, someone is aware of your plans. If you let your date knows that someone will know you will be safer as well. You don’t have to come right out and tell them, but you can let them overhear you on a mobile phone sharing the details.

Protection Advice

Even if you don’t plan on doing anything sexual, carrying a condom is a good idea. This is important for men and women to do. This way if things go really well and the scene gets heated, you are prepared. It’s not a bad idea to carry a small packet of lubricant as well. You can find travel size tubes at any sex shop. Women may want to consider using the female condom as well.

Public Places

It’s not a good idea to go to someones house for a first date. This is also true of remote areas. Camping and hiking may sound like a romantic date idea, but it’s not smart for a first date. Remember that you don’t know this person yet, and it’s hard to get help if you need it when no one is around. You can plan a day in a park, or go on a walk, but stick to daylight hours, parks with traffic, and stay on trails.

How To Find Sexual Health Clinics

Keeping up on your sexual health is important for every adult. Even if you aren’t in to anything like swinging, you still want to get tested a few times a year. You may not want to go to your doctor for this as it can be embarrassing, so finding a sexual health clinic may be a better idea for you. Finding a local clinic is easy, and could save your life.

Go Online

The first thing you should check is online listings. If you simply Google a keyword string like ‘sexual health clinic’ and your town, or ‘std clinics in…’ you should get several results.. Many clinics now have websites that will post their hours, what tests they run, how to make appointments, and costs associated.

Ask For Referrals

If you have friends that you are very close with, you can ask them how they take care of their sexual health. Chances are pretty good that they have used a clinic at some point. A referral also gives you the benefit of knowing what to expect at the clinic, and they can warn you of anything you may need to know before you go. If your friend is willing to refer to you their clinic, they probably had a decent experience.

Call Your Insurance Company

Your health insurance company won’t bat an eye referring you to a clinic. Even if you want to remain anonymous, getting a referral this way will help you ensure you are going to a reputable clinic. You don’t have to file your insurance if you don’t want too.